Color Clash

color wheel

I’m sure we’ve all been in that position where you’re holding up a shirt in one hand and a pair of pants or some type of bottom in the other, and thought I have no idea if this matches or not.

Well, never fear! I am hopefully going to provide an enlightening amount of information on how to match different colors in your clothing.

1. Black + Navy

Black and navy. Two wonderful colors, but two colors that should never, ever be worn at the same time. The problem with trying to wear black and navy all in the same outfit is the simple fact that they are much too close in hues to blend well. If you’re going to wear black or navy, go for it! But remember to only wear one or the other – not both.

And that brings me up to my next point…

2. Cream + White

Cream and white have the same problem as black and navy. They are simply too close to being the same color – yet are not. And this causes them to clash whenever they are worn together. I’m going to echo what I said above: if you’re going to wear cream or white, do it! But keep in mind, that you should only wear one or the other – not both.

3. Neutrals: Everyone’s Friend

Neutrals are the all-around flexible colors that you will quickly learn to love. Black and white are the most versatile with both being at either end of the spectrum. As long as you keep in mind that navy + black and cream + white are not smart fashion choices, any other color is fair game to pair these two neutrals with! The next colors that round out our neutral discussion are gray and brown. Depending on what hue you find, gray and brown should match with almost anything. There are always exceptions with the latter two, however, so try to use your best fashion judgment.

4. Matching Colors

Now that I’ve gone through what colors not to wear together, it’s time to dive into some fun, stylish combinations! Two colors I love pairing together are black and silver. They’re both classy, eye-catching, and easy to find with each falling into the category of neutrals. If bright hues are more your style, that’s great! Green skinny jeans paired with the popular fringed ankle boot (latte colored brown!) along with a gold and cream top can look stunning. Add in a pair of gold loops and matching bangles, and you’re good to go! There are so many more color combinations I could go through like navy and crimson or orange and brown, but hopefully this has given y’all a good start to learning how to mix and match different colors.

I hope this article helped you somewhat in learning how to match up different pieces of clothing!

~ Southern Dreamer


Piece by Piece

As I was watching American Idol Thursday night, Kelly Clarkson took the stage to sing a song she wrote – “Piece by Piece”. The song is about her own father and husband. Some of the emotionally weighted lyrics say:

But piece by piece, he collected me up
Off the ground, where you abandoned things and
Piece by piece he filled the holes that you burned in me
Six years old and you know
He never walks away
He never asks for money
He takes care of me
He loves me
Piece by piece, he restored my faith
That a man can be kind and the Father could, stay.

With tears coming down her face, Kelly Clarkson tries to finish the song – her voice breaking at the end.

Piece by piece I fell far from the tree
I will never leave her like you left me
And she will never have to wonder her worth
Because unlike you I’m going to put her first and you know
He’ll never walk away,
He’ll never break her heart
He’ll take care of things, he’ll love her
Piece by piece, he restored my faith
That a man can be kind and the Father should be great.

And this is where I am going with this. Hollywood and the secular world is constantly preaching how women ‘don’t need men’. Are you kidding me? Tell that to Kelly Clarkson who cried and could barely finish the song she wrote about a father who did not step up to the plate. Tell that to La Porsha who could not help a few tears falling from her eyes – a single mother.

In fact, why don’t you Hollywood, go on and tell every single mother who has to pay the bills and raise her children all on her own. Tell every child that grew up without a father – that as you indicate, ‘fathers aren’t important’. Really?

I am so freaking sick of our world doing this. We need more loyal, committed men! And maybe, just perhaps, if everyone quit putting them down more would step up to the plate because it would be expected of them.

My family and I actively help single mothers. And I have seen first-hand the absolute horrible effect that not having a father has on both the woman and the children. If you don’t want to take my word for it, look at the statistics!

  • Children who are living with only one parent, are twice as likely to commit suicide.
  • Children born to a single woman demonstrate more aggressive behaviors.
  • 5.25 partnership transitions = the same effect that being born to a single mother has.
  • A study down with children three years of age and older (1,977 total) found that children who lived with their biological married parents, showed less behavioral problems than children living with at least one non-biological parent.
  • The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services says, “Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse.”
  • Children who grow up in homes without a father are four times more likely to be poor.
  • Only 12% of children living with married-couple families were living in poverty in 2011, whereas 44% of children in mother-only families were.

Fathers aren’t important? Really? The statistics and countless impacted lives beg to differ.

~ Southern Dreamer


Interview with Ginger Garrett

One day, when my family and I went into Lifeway, Ginger Garrett – a Christian author – was there signing books. I was really excited and pleased with this unsuspected occurrence. After purchasing my own copy and having her sign it, she was gracious enough to spend a few minutes with me answering some questions I had as an aspiring author.

  1. Have you always wanted to be an author?

Not at all. I loved the theatre and majored in theatre arts in college. However, I realized I hated acting out other people’s stories and would much rather write my own.

2. What is the best advice you have been given that has helped you in your writing?

Read. Dissect a book. Using post-it notes, mark how chapters begin…with a new scene or continuing the previous one? A new character introduced? How does each chapter end? On a down note or a cliffhanger? Soon, you begin to see patterns that authors have. Most thriller writers, for example, have a VERY common pattern. Dissect a few thrillers and see if you can figure it out! And most young adult books launch the first chapter in the same way. It’s an important day, our hero is at a disadvantage…and see if you can find the rest of the common traits.

3. How has your writing grown and changed since your first book?

I’ve learned that writing requires years of learning the craft. Talent is given; excellence is earned. Someday I want to get there.

4. Do you find writing conferences are helpful and if so which ones do you recommend?

I attend every Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators conference that I can, at least two a year. I love them. I love being with my tribe, and learning from other pros.

5. What can you tell us about “The Last Monster”?

“You are a light in a dark world, Sofia. But do not trust the darkness. Monsters are not the only things that can find you.”

Thirteen-year-old Sofia is not only trying to survive middle-school cliques and first crushes, she’s in charge of protecting grotesquely beautiful, lonely monsters that have roamed the Earth for centuries. These monsters are magical, but they are not loved, they are feared. So greatly in fact, that one woman wants them forgotten. Drawn into a violent and unpredictable mystery, Sofia learns that loving outsiders has a cost.

THE LAST MONSTER is about love, fear, and the thrill of discovering who we were born to be. It’s about making peace with our insecurities and defending those who must hide what they really are.

  1. Who is the main character and how much of yourself did you write into he/she?

Sofia lost a leg to cancer and has given up her first love, running. I love Sofia and understand the grief of losing the ability to run. I didn’t struggle with cancer, but several friends have, and my beloved dog, a Great Pyrenees, had bone cancer in his leg as well that ended his life. Cancer is evil. I hope we stop fighting each other and start fighting cancer.

  1. Was there any difference in your approach to writing more of a fantasy/mythological fictional story than biblical fiction?

I could really let loose with THE LAST MONSTER. Biblical fiction is really quite restricting; I was never free to explore or express doubts or questions, or let my characters be fully human. Other writers however write biblical fiction beautifully and they love it. I didn’t so I left the genre. Plus, I’ve always loved old-fashioned monster tales, like the old black and white movie monster stories. When I was a kid, I pretended to host my tea parties at midnight so Dracula and the Wolfman could come. I felt sorry for them and wanted to be friends with them.

  1. For aspiring authors, what advice would you give?

Read. Dissect. Ignore your inner critic.

I really appreciate Ginger Garrett being willing and taking the time to answer my questions. Thank you so much!

I hope all of y’all will go and check out several of the wonderful books she’s written! Her latest one – The Last Monster –  will be coming out this April. I encourage all of y’all to pick up a copy when it’s released, I know I will.

~ Southern Dreamer