What’s New?

How are all my fellow shopping and fashion lovers out there doing?! With school starting, I thought I would let y’all know some of my thoughts on the current fashion trends!

Let’s start off then!

First of all, off-the-shoulder pieces are super popular right now. Everywhere I go, I’ve been seeing them: bathing suits, tops, dresses – you name it, and someone has probably made it into this style!

Blair Off The Shoulder Crochet Shift Dress

Sammie Off The Shoulder BlouseNote: both of the above are from Francesca’s, you can find their website here.

Another trend are jumpers and rompers. I’m sure y’all have seen them in several different stores. This past semester at college, I purchased a cute romper from Kinnucan’s. The top part has a ruffle, there’s a bow/belt you tie around your waist, and it has a white plus neutral striped pattern. I love it!

Besides that, my aunt graciously bought me an adorable, simple white romper from D’Squared. The material is really light and airy – perfect for summer!

With my height, finding a romper that is actually long enough can be a challenge. Luckily, I found two that have worked so far. If y’all know any good places to shop for tall girls, comment below! 🙂

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I couldn’t find a picture of this romper anywhere online, so here is me in it xD
Be Bop Juniors' Printed Drawstring Romper - Multi Stripe XL
Romper from Macy’s!

Moving along!

Blush pink is IN. Everywhere I go, I’ve seen tons of items that are blush pink. And not only clothing, but others as well – like bedding or stationary!

I absolutely love this color, so I’m super excited that it’s one of those “in” shades.

Funny story for y’all, when I was getting ready for my first year at college, I started to look for bedding and decorative items. I found a picture on Pinterest that I loved, and decided that I was going to try and model my dorm room after it.

One of the main colors, along with gold, was blush pink. My mom and I looked everywhere, but for the life of us, we could not find anything! So we decided to switch the blush pink for a soft teal color.

Looking back, it’s funny to think about, because now I see blush pink items everywhere!

Another popular color, similar to blush pink, is rose gold!

So pretty!

How is y’all’s summer/school fashion coming along? Did you find any cute pieces? Let me know in the comments below!

~ Southern Dreamer

 

Liebster Tag!

Ruleses:

  • Link to Global Aussie’s Award blog post. Comment with a link to your Award post. And put the official Liebster Award stamp on your blog. (borrowed the stamp from Hannah’s post)
  • Acknowledge and link to the blogger who nominated you. (Thanks Kinsey!)
  • Answer the 11 questions your nominator asked.
  • Nominate 11 more bloggers and spread the ‘new blogger’ love.
  • Ask them 11 fun questions of your own.
  • Let them know on their blogs that you have nominated them.
  • Optional Rules

Optional Rules:

  • Write a paragraph about what makes you passionate about blogging
  • List ten random facts about yourself

Onto the questions!

  • Why did you start blogging?
    I first started blogging to get more practice writing – something to kind of keep me accountable to write consistently. It’s also good exposure so there’s that 🙂
  • What is your favorite blogging memory?
    Oh! Definitely when my favorite author – Robin Jones Gunn – commented on a post where I had done a review on one of her books. I had gone to her blog and in a comment told her about my blog post, but I never expected in a million years for her to actually comment on it!
  • What is your favorite writing memory?
    Ah, that’s hard! Either the reaction my Pietro/OC fanfiction got on the TPS forums, or my creative writing class with TPS. So basically with TPS xD
  • If you could have any breed of cat or dog (or snake, or hamster, or horse, or whatever), what would it be?
    Ahhh, do I have to pick??? I’ve always thought Australian Shepherds were pretty dogs, and Ragdoll cats are super cute (my cousin has one!). Not sure what horse breed I would want…
  • What is your favorite memory of a pet or pets?
    We recently got a new puppy (I PROMISE TO POST ABOUT IT SOON), and he’s adorable. Doesn’t have coordination quite down yet, so that’s always funny. And any memory with my cat, Kit, is hilarious – she’s got a huge personality, despite her being a tiny cat.
  • What is the one book everyone in the world should read?
    Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis
  • Do you like rain?
    I do like rain, as long as I’m not caught in it haha xD
  • Cauliflower or broccoli?
    Broccoli.
  • What is the longest book you’ve read?
    Oh dang, I’m not sure??? I never really think about the length when I’m reading. Maybe Emma by Jane Austen?
  • What is the longest book or story you’ve written?
    My current WIP (in order) is at 29K, but the longest one I’ve written has been 41K.
  • What do you consider your biggest passion or cause in life?
    My biggest passion is definitely writing, my pets, my family, and God.

Alright y’all! There you go!

My questions will be…

  1. Does your blog have a theme? If so, what is it?
  2. When did you know that you wanted to be a writer? Or do you?
  3. How long did it take you to decide on a blog name?
  4. If you’re having writer’s block, what inspires you?
  5. What is something that happens in your favorite book, that you wish didn’t? How would you change it?
  6. On the other hand, what’s something that did not happen, that you wish had?
  7. What genre do you like writing for best?
  8. Top three favorite book series’, go!
  9. How many pets do you have?
  10. What’s your Myers Briggs type? (if you know it, if not, describe your personality)
  11. Best writing advice you could give?

I nominate…Greta (When Almonds Blossom), Abby (A Glimpse of Starlight), Victoria (Through The Wasteland), my mom 😉 (Life on the Other Side), Dani (A Ball of Glass), Grace (Snowfall of Dreams), Shiphrah (Books and Crannies), BeautyBeyondBones, Naomi (Elsewhere),  Allyson (A World Within Worlds), and Elisabeth (Embassy Kid).

Have at it y’all! 🙂

~ Southern Dreamer

Sitting By The Fire

See the source imageThe past couple of weeks, I’ve been going through a book called Grace for the Good Girl by Emily P. Freeman. As described in another book, Breaking Up With Perfect by Amy Carroll, there are two different types of perfectionists:

“Some lovers of Perfect live with the Good Girl Syndrome. These women are rule followers by nature and bask in earning the pleasure of the people surrounding them. Others live with the Never Good Enough Syndrome. These women use their flawless exterior to cover the wounds and shame of their pasts. Both kinds of women build an external structure rule by rule and pleasant smile by pleasant smile.”

If you struggle with perfectionism, like I do, then you definitely need to pick up a copy!

Recently, I reached chapter twelve in Grace for the Good Girl, titled “Remain.” Right away, I knew that this chapter was going to be one that spoke to me…since this was the first paragraph in it:

“I’ve never liked the phrase quiet time all that much, but I was a good girl who went to Bible college, so I’ve not always been brave enough to admit it. I never knew what I was supposed to do during a quiet time. Read one verse? Is a chapter enough? Maybe I should memorize the whole book. The list seemed both empty and endless.”

Yep. I can relate to that – not knowing if what you’re doing is “enough” for God, and the overthinking mind and perfectionism only heaping on more confusion and stress.

Do any of y’all see yourself in her description? I do.

It can be hard, for us perfectionists to have to work through this. After all, we aren’t supposed to feel like this, are we? We should be jumping up and down for joy, happiness oozing out of every pore at the thought of getting to spend time with God.

And yet, oftentimes, I find myself doing it out of obligation, duty, or guilt. Then, my mind can’t help but go…

You’re such a hypocrite. 

Not exactly the nicest thought to be thinking.

“Let the beloved of the Lord rest secure in him, for he shields him all day long, and the one the Lord loves rests between his shoulders,” – Deuteronomy 33:12

While researching, I came across this verse, which I do not think I’ve read before, and knew I had to add in. Sometimes it can be easier to see God as a task master and dictator, than a loving Father.

Rules, justice? I can understand that. It makes sense.

But grace? Upon grace? It befuddles me. And yet, that is what God offers us – free of charge, free of punishment. He wants us to come and rest in Him. Even if that’s just laying in bed in the morning and talking to Jesus, and that’s the only time you have.

I know y’all are probably wondering why I titled this post, “Sitting by the Fire,” when all I’ve talked about so far is grace, perfectionism, etc. So here comes the part where it gets explained 😉

For those of you who have wood-burning fireplaces, don’t you love the crackle of the wood and the smell it gives off? Something dangerous, yet beautiful. Something that puts off heat, that we need, but can also cause damage.

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Emily Freeman, describes this and the analogy from her friend Fil Anderson.

“He likened this fire stoking to time spent with God. He didn’t put the fire out and make a brand-new one every hour. He merely kept the same one going, moving embers and logs around to catch the flame in new ways so the warm kept on warming.”

Then, in the next chapter, she adds this, which connects to her earlier point.

“We breathe in air and breathe out worship. We receive love and extend worship. We embrace children, offering worship. We comfort, we laugh, we mourn, we dance, we read, we dream, we exist – all worship. We pay the bills, we run on the treadmill, we enjoy a good movie, we make dinner, we welcome friends with open arms – worship, all worship. We send money and offer prayer and sit with a lonely neighbor, in Jesus’ name. We wait for love, we long for home, we pour out our hearts and hopes and fears and longing; we create with words and photos and colors and food, all beautiful acts of worship.

But we don’t call it that.

We call those things living. But when the Spirit of the living God lives inside of you, then your living is also your worship.”

Y’all, when I read this I was like WOAH. I have always put my time with God in a category, separate from everything else, and if I didn’t get to it that day, well, I wasn’t a very good Christian then, was I?

I had never thought of it like that before, even so, it made complete sense! Of course everything we do is an act of worship! Our bodies are His temple.

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies,” ~ 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

There are so many things in life that we have to do – school, work, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, visiting friends, etc. As life happens, some days are going to be so busy that we aren’t going to have time to sit down and completely devote fifteen or thirty minutes to God.

In those times, I believe Jesus wants us to just rest in Him. He knows how busy and stressful life can be, and knows that there are some seasons in life that are going to be crazier than others.

Now, that doesn’t mean this is a free-pass-never-read-the-Bible-again-ticket. That’s not what I’m saying. There’s a difference in giving yourself grace, resting in God, and completely and blatantly taking advantage of it and making a consistent pattern of not spending time with the Lord.

In the end, as we learn to walk in grace, it’s less about performance, and more about expanding our definition of what it means to be in the presence of the Father – every breathe in worship.

~ Southern Dreamer