Piece by Piece

As I was watching American Idol Thursday night, Kelly Clarkson took the stage to sing a song she wrote – “Piece by Piece”. The song is about her own father and husband. Some of the emotionally weighted lyrics say:

But piece by piece, he collected me up
Off the ground, where you abandoned things and
Piece by piece he filled the holes that you burned in me
Six years old and you know
He never walks away
He never asks for money
He takes care of me
He loves me
Piece by piece, he restored my faith
That a man can be kind and the Father could, stay.

With tears coming down her face, Kelly Clarkson tries to finish the song – her voice breaking at the end.

Piece by piece I fell far from the tree
I will never leave her like you left me
And she will never have to wonder her worth
Because unlike you I’m going to put her first and you know
He’ll never walk away,
He’ll never break her heart
He’ll take care of things, he’ll love her
Piece by piece, he restored my faith
That a man can be kind and the Father should be great.

And this is where I am going with this. Hollywood and the secular world is constantly preaching how women ‘don’t need men’. Are you kidding me? Tell that to Kelly Clarkson who cried and could barely finish the song she wrote about a father who did not step up to the plate. Tell that to La Porsha who could not help a few tears falling from her eyes – a single mother.

In fact, why don’t you Hollywood, go on and tell every single mother who has to pay the bills and raise her children all on her own. Tell every child that grew up without a father – that as you indicate, ‘fathers aren’t important’. Really?

I am so freaking sick of our world doing this. We need more loyal, committed men! And maybe, just perhaps, if everyone quit putting them down more would step up to the plate because it would be expected of them.

My family and I actively help single mothers. And I have seen first-hand the absolute horrible effect that not having a father has on both the woman and the children. If you don’t want to take my word for it, look at the statistics!

  • Children who are living with only one parent, are twice as likely to commit suicide.
  • Children born to a single woman demonstrate more aggressive behaviors.
  • 5.25 partnership transitions = the same effect that being born to a single mother has.
  • A study down with children three years of age and older (1,977 total) found that children who lived with their biological married parents, showed less behavioral problems than children living with at least one non-biological parent.
  • The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services says, “Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse.”
  • Children who grow up in homes without a father are four times more likely to be poor.
  • Only 12% of children living with married-couple families were living in poverty in 2011, whereas 44% of children in mother-only families were.

Fathers aren’t important? Really? The statistics and countless impacted lives beg to differ.

~ Southern Dreamer


The Consequences of Fatherlessness


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